This blog post may bring bad news for some of the men out there, and perhaps raise a couple of red flags about their sex life so far.
According to a survey involving over 1,200 Women’s Health readers about their least favourite sex positions, many frequently practiced sex postures are not that great for the girls after all.
Women rated common moves like doggy style, reverse cowgirl, and 69 as the worst sex positions.
Chances are, those sex staples have been in your arsenal since you bought your first condom.
Men (and some women too) have long relied on standard moves like missionary because they’re easy, efficient, and feel great—but as it turns out, women have quietly been cursing them the whole time.
This post contains not only answers on why those postures are not so great, but also offers a few ideas on how to solve the “problem”. My function is the “practical” escort-expert, where I give my own outlook and perspective on the positions in question.
- Doggy Style
Why she’s not into it: Put simply, it’s too painful. The issue here is you may be ramming her cervix, which is why deep penetration is often more harmful than hot.
Plus, if you’re fully removing yourself, then re-entering her, it often hurts her chances at staying fully lubricated. Women in our survey also said doggy’s not intimate enough. Even though rough sex can be awesome if you’re both into it, most women are looking for more of a connection during sex.
While you may have a blast admiring her assets when she’s on all fours, her view of the bed isn’t nearly as stimulating.
How to make it more enjoyable: To prevent the bump and grind from getting painful, keep your thrusts short and shallow, rather than deep and fast. Shallow thrusts will stimulate the front third of her vagina, which is the most sensitive part. Up the intimacy factor by running your hands through her hair, down her spine, and occasionally leaning forward to kiss and suck on her neck.
And don’t forget the clitoral stimulation! Just because you’re focusing on her backside, doesn’t mean you should neglect her most sensitive spots.
What I think: If the partner is gentle enough and have the “right size”, it is a very sexy and effective position! I personally like it, and feel sexy while performing it. If my parter gets carried away, I just slow him down gently, so we can both have our fun! 8 out of my 10 scale.
2. Woman on top
Why she’s not into it: One word: insecurity. According to participants of the survey, a majority of women feel more self-conscious when they’re on top. Women often worry about what their stomachs or breasts look like from where you’re laying. And even though you think she looks like a rock star (which I sincerely hope you do), even the tiniest shred of doubt can put out her fire.
How to make it more enjoyable: Switch into a side-by-side position like “The Spork.” Have her lie on her back, and raise her right leg. Slot yourself between her legs at a 90-degree angle and ease inside her. This way, her legs will form the tines of a spork utensil.
What I think: I can imagine that some women feel insecure during this position. One is really in the spotlight while performing this position, and if there is a slight body issue, than this position may certainly cause doubtful thoughts. I feel fairly confident in my skin, therefore I have never experienced any problem with this position. On the contrary: I like being “in charge” and set the pace while being on top. It is not my favourite position, but out of a 10 scare, I would rate it to 7!
3. Reverse Cowgirl
Why she’s not into it: Because it’s hard for her to climax like that—and not everything fits when she’s riding in reverse.
“Reverse cowgirl may seem sexy and adventurous, but when you actually try to enter her, thing might not fit the way you think that they should,” says Jen Landa, M.D., Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women.
It often boils down to the curvature of your penis not coinciding with the angle of her vagina, Dr. Landa says. Realistically, any time you bend your penis too far at the base, it’s not only uncomfortable for her, it becomes dangerous for you. In other words, you can break your junk.
How to make it more enjoyable: If you’re in it for the view, switch to doggy. The fit’s more practical, and you can help her reach orgasm, says Dr. Landa.
But if you still want the naughtiness factor, put the doggy to bed. Do this: Stand up, have her bend forward, place her hands on a stable mirror, then enter her from behind. You’ll still be able to manually stimulate her, but now you can both use the mirror to your advantage.
What I think: I don’t fancy this position at all and agree with the other women. I have tried it many times, and it just does not really seem to be working…with anyone! I don’t feel stimulated enough, I can’t interact with my partner and the position is simply uncomfortable. There is no use of it (for me) whatsoever. It’s like…1 out of 10. Sorry about that! LoL
Why she’s not into it: It doesn’t hit the right spots. Plus, if the guy’s penis is on the smaller end of the spectrum, this position doesn’t really accentuate his size.
How to make it work: Try using the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)—just don’t call it that in bed. The position is similar to missionary, except your body is farther up and to one side. (So rather than being chest to chest, your chest is near her shoulders.)
Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up, which causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with her clitoris.
Even though the name is a mouthful, the move is proven to work: Women who were unable to climax in regular missionary were 56 percent more likely to climax using CAT, according to a study from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.
What I think: This is actually my favourite position!! I cannot relate to the opinion of the other women. I love missionary position and this is the only position where I can truly and utterly COME!
LoL..so go girls and figure out what you do wrong!! 🙂 Definitely a 10!
Why she’s not into it: She’s, well, preoccupied. According to the survey results, women say it’s too difficult to focus on receiving pleasure when they have to concentrate on giving it.
And pleasure and reaching climax is heavily determined by her mental tate, Dr. Landa says. So it becomes difficult to relax and enjoy your oral skills if she’s trying to take care of your needs at the same time.
How to fix it: If you want her to get the most out of oral sex, you’re better off taking turns giving and receiving. Many women claim 69 feels anonymous to them, because they want their partner to be able to look them in the eyes and feel a connection. So if you stick to giving first, she’s way more likely to enjoy herself.
What I think: 69 is indeed a bit challenging and requires a great deal of multitasking skills. I would do it on “request” of my partner (mainly to please him), but it is difficult to truly enjoy this act.
I am anyway more like a giver when it comes to oral pleasures, but it is just me… I guess. Taking turns is definitely a good idea and makes the game more enjoyable. It makes only to a 3 on my scale of 10.