Generally speaking, the longevity of any romantic relationship can be determined by sexual chemistry the first time a couple have sex. In light of this, I decided to take a few things into consideration to find out how guys can impress their new partners.
As an escort, I frequently get asked by new clients about what I really like in bed. They really want to make sure that I also enjoy our time together, which I find rather thoughtful and kind of them.
Sex is just one aspect that influences how long a couple will stay together, respectively how long a client may remain interested in a particular escort. Naturally, the chemicals we experience during intimacy create lust, and as humans we want more of what makes us feel good.
To give yourself the best chance possible of ‘clicking’ with a new (sex)partner, one of the most important thing is to be honest and open with each other.
Communication is very important when it comes to sex. Ask the person what turns them on, have fun exploring each others’ bodies and spend time on foreplay.
It is important to emphasise: foreplay doesn’t just happen in the bedroom. In my opinion, it starts long before the actual sex begins, and can include great conversations, compliments, flirting, sexting, kissing, touching or going on a great date. These things all contribute to setting the right mood for sex.
Don’t rush or stress about whether you are turning your partner on, as it can be an erection killer. The right communication is the key factor!
In case all else fails and you have underwhelming ‘first time sex’ with a new partner: is there any coming back? Or that’s the end of the relationship? Not necessarily.
Ideally you would do this the first time round. But, especially if you are trying to make up for a poor first time, communicate! It helps a lot to tell openly about your sexual preferences and wishes. Tell your partner what you want (e.g. ‘I like it when you touch my/it feels good when you kiss my/I want you to lick me here…). If something didn’t work the first time try something different.
As I talked about it many times before on my blog: sex toys or different positions could help too. But really: don’t stress! Just have fun experimenting because sex should be fun. Sex is more enjoyable if you are relaxed and communicate what turns you on, and when you are with a professional escort girl, you can really open up and be honest about your sexual phantasies. This might be tricky with a wife, or long term partner, as she could “judge” and view you as a “weirdo”, just because you want to try out something unusual or new.
So there you have it. Whether you just want to improve your hook-up game, or if you’re nervously awaiting the moment you take a new relationship to the next level, put some of these ideas into practice and you might avoid the “sexless fate” of millions of lonely souls.