Do you remember those good old days when you let your imagination go free and just played carefree? I used to put myself in different roles: once I was a princess who needed to be rescued from the evil step mother, other times I pretended to be a dancer, police officer, or even a teacher. All the kids from the neighborhood were involved and each of us had their own role to play. The “dress up” from my childhood made me so happy and free. But who says that those fun times are only limited to the age between 6-12?
Why not bring out our creative side to have a little fun in our sex lives?! Erotic role-playing can bring a whole new dimension to your sex life, and re-energize your relationship in the bedroom. I do different role games with my clients regularly and often and we genuinely love it. It literally helps to live out and realize secret erotic fantasies. Pretending “to be someone else” really helps to signal the partner about our sexual desires and secret wishes without feeling uncomfortable or weird.
How do I get started?
There’s no wrong way to do it, so don’t let yourself get too bogged down in over-thinking things. Erotic role-play you can be as simple or as elaborate as you want it to be, which is the beauty of role-play really. Some people choose to just enact their fantasies by taking on the roles only verbally through the things they say, some use costumes or uniforms, and some get as elaborate as using props or staging the scene in different places to make it feel as real as possible. Don’t worry if it feels awkward at first. The first time trying something new usually always is, but once you get comfortable and allow yourself to just let go and have fun with it, you’ll be surprised how easily it comes to you! Let your imagination soar, as the sky is the limit!
One of the best things about erotic role-playing is the energy that gets devoted to creating your fantasies together. All of that time spent in creating the atmosphere and mood, anticipating the sharing of pleasure together, actually works to heighten your sexual passion for one another! Anticipation boosts your arousal, and will have you craving your partner. Suddenly you’ll find yourselves experiencing a renewed sexual vibrancy, and a lot more sizzle in the sack!
A Sweet Escape
Every couple experiences times when the sexual passion doesn’t seem to be flowing as intensely as they would like it to be. It’s easy to allow the stress of every day responsibilities and routine to affect your intimate sexual relationships. Whether you’ve been together 6 months or six years, role-playing your fantasies allows you to leave behind the pressures of the “everyday”, and enter into a world purely created by you and your partner, creating a welcome escape. Your bedroom can become a haven where the restrictions of those roles and rules of your daily life are exchanged for the limitless exploration of your imaginations. Role playing is freeing, empowering, and not to mention, an insanely sexy amount of fun!
Sharing is Caring
Remember how much fun it was to dress up as your favourite Superhero as a kid, or play cops and robbers with your friends? Now you can enjoy that imaginative play on a whole new level! Talk to your partner about what kinds of fantasies they have, or ways they might like you to dress, and share your desires as well. Nothing is hotter than sharing your desires intimately with your partner, and bringing those fantasies to life together! One of the greatest benefits of erotic role-play is the depth of communication you get to share by talking about your fantasies with each other.
If you’re new to the idea of role-playing your fantasies, here are a few of my favourites to help get your creative juices, both figurative and literal, flowing!
- Doctor/Nurse and Patient
This is one of the most popular fantasies that men and women share. There’s just something so hot about a naughty nurse or doctor giving that extra bit of “care” to their patient! Give your partner’s body a very thorough exam, and show them the healing benefits of your love. Nurses, give that man the sexy sponge bath that will have him craving more! If you want to go the extra mile, you can find nurses uniforms on any number of websites catering to fantasy play, or doctor’s coats at your local uniform shop. Any way your imagination takes you is sure to be a prescription for temperatures to rise in your lovemaking!
Get down on your knees, and that’s an order! Role play military style can be super-hot! Ladies, you know what they say, nothing beats a mean in uniform (except maybe getting him out of one, that is!) It has the element of fantasy with uniforms, and the added erotic intoxication of power exchange! You can find any number of uniform pieces at an Army-Navy store near you, without having to spend a fortune. Drop, and give yourself over to pleasure!
- Executive and Secretary
This one is my personal favourite as of late! There’s nothing quite like flinging the papers off the desk, as you sprawl your partner across the top of it, and take them! Or men, bend your ladies over it, and see how good she is at taking some “dictation”! It’s a really easy fantasy to enact at home with minimal props, and again, has the added bonus of the charge that power exchange can bring to sex! Silk neck ties can make wonderful restraints, and rulers make paddles, for those who enjoy sensation play!
- Cops and Robbers
Turn around, put your hands behind your back, and spread ‘em! What more can you ask for? The police officer fantasy seems to be pretty strongly shared by both genders. What can I say? A uniform is a pretty sexy thing, and an immediate reinforcement in our minds of authority. This is where it’s really good to be the bad guy! Arrest your partner, read them their rights, and have them surrender to your love! They might not stay quite so silent though, officer!
- Maid and Landlord
Imagine as your sexy maid wipes off the desk with her sponge or swaps the floor with sexy hip motions. Wouldn’t you want to check things out properly? I love this game to the point that I bought myself sexy maid outfit too. It is a classic black and white piece that even include a cute tiara to place on my head. There are so many scenarios to be created around this outfit, which satisfies both dominative and submissive sexual preferences. Just let your fantasy go free and create your own story.
- Pirate and Wench
Prepare to be boarded! This fantasy is sure to please, as it’s very easy to enact with little or no costuming. Many lingerie stores even sell themed lingerie for this very fantasy. Pillage, plunder, have her walk your plank, and enjoy all the rewards of your captive! Jack Sparrow will have nothing on you, matey!
Plenty of sexy booty will have your flag raised high for sure! Remember, what they say about the motion of the ocean? It sure is good to be Captain!
This is just a small sampling of some great fantasy ideas that will have you and your partner eager for more! Maybe you have one that I didn’t mention, or maybe you have new ideas from reading these! The key is to have fun with it, and enjoy getting to know your partner in new and exciting ways than you did before. Remember, none of these roles above need be seen as gender specific, so enjoy playing in whatever way you desire! I make a mighty fine maid, and I’ve had some damn sexy male landlords! It’s all about exploring and having fun together.
And if you’re looking for more tips, check out The Ultimate Guide To Sexual Fantasy and Exhibitionism For The Shy .
May all your erotic adventures bring you the ecstasy you desire!