I was called the other day for a job which involved humiliation and role game in public. This was the first time that I did such a thing in front of other people, and I think it went very well for that matter. Obviously, we discussed with the client before the game started what he exactly wanted. So to say: we had our own little manuscript. I was wearing leather outfit with extra high heels, and heavy make up. We went to a bar and I had to pick up random men in the presence of my client and make him look like an idiot in front of those strangers. We did the same thing in a sex shop as well. Wearing that outfit and heavy make up gave me also a kind of security blanket and helped me “get rid of my real self” and allowed me to successfully play my role as the nasty bitch insulting her “husband”. Honestly, I really enjoy role-plays, because it lets me be a different person and try my acting skills as well.
However, when we were done, and I was on my way back home, the whole game made me think, and a simple question was formed in my head: Why actually some people find it sexually uplifting to be humiliated in public?
This topic is rather large, as it involves many subtopics as well. As I mentioned in the title, the game can involve submission and dominance, using bondage, physical violence, but it also can be a light version of the above-mentioned methods. I personally, do not like hitting, torturing people and leave visible marks behind. However, mind games can be just as cruel and painful as actual spanking. In these cases, the clients are actually seeking the feeling that comes out of the act. Based on my experience, I concluded that most of these men (or even women) are highly successful and they often possess a leading position in their professional lives.
As I made a little research online looking for an explanation and answer to my question, I came across the following post on a related website: “Humiliation in and of itself is sort of freeing. I like the emotional release that comes with being humiliated and hurt until I cry. I can completely relax with my partner, let it all out and do my very best to please him. Being humiliated puts me in a space where I am not responsible, I’m just an object and I have no obligation to try and keep up appearances. I’m a mess and I wallow in it. It feels good.”
Others state, that sexual humiliation is a tool for emotional release. I also believe, that in today’s society humans are just bored with the classic sexual pleasure and they want to try new things and gain new experience in both sexual and other fields of life. So if that is true, then let them live their fantasies out!
Kisses,
Eline
